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Life After A Loss - 3 Pointers To Stand Grief

7th September 2011 by admin No Comments

In one way or another, each person is bound to face grief. At one point, everyone can lose someone important like a next of kin, a friend, a pet because death is fated. To understand grief better, one must see it as a complex reaction because grieving is not just apparent in the emotions projected by a person. It can also bring about social, philosophical and physical reactions.

Say that somebody in the family died by accident. The lamenting family may first show signs of strong emotions like anger and sadness. Physically, they may hit the walls or become suddenly speechless. Failure to sleep and nausea can also be observable. Socially, the affected family can withdraw themselves from other people. Philosophical reactions on the other hand have something to do with the individual beliefs or faith of the bereaved. Some can experience renewal of faith while for some a strong religious conviction.

Since grieving and loss is inescapable, it can happen to a friend, a celebrity, a neighbor and you. To survive grief and move on with life, here are recommended tips:

Be aware of The Normal Process Of Grief
Kubler-Ross has named the five stages of grief. As expected, people go through considerable and significant loss. However, there are times when they get stuck in one of the first four stages. For sure, life can be painful after a loss. But after the last stage, which is acceptance, one can move on with life. Cited below are the 5 stages of grief:

First stage: Denial and Isolation; Second stage: Anger; Third Stage: Bargaining; Fourth stage: Depression; Fifth stage: Acceptance.

It is a must to learn that loss and death can affect people differently. Yes, it is difficult but life has to move on and people must accept that death is part of life. To accept loss, release the pain. If there’s anything that you should keep, keep the good recollections.

Find Support Groups And Friends Who Can Help You
True friends will follow you through thick and thick. Rely on true friends. Find comfort and solace in their words and deeds. Some will try to uplift your spirit by sending your cheering words and quotes that can inspire you and help pull you through. However be careful and keep away from people who disguised themselves as buddies. They are the ones who will entice you to try drugs and alcohol. These people are bad influence. You should not run to them for reassurance, rather these are the people you should get away from. Remember that drugs and alcohol are not the best solutions to what is happening to you. They can only provide momentary relief and they can only delay your grieving. And you wouldn’t want that.

Find Healthy Activities To Engage In
They say that the demon’s playground is found in the idler’s mind. Do not just bum around the house, doing nothing. Yes, for the first days, it is excusable to withdraw yourself away from people. Then again it is not the end of the world. Find and engage in healthy activities that can preoccupy you like gardening indoors and going to church. These activities can also help you discover that life is a gift and that everything happens for a reason. Seek meaning and purpose in your life.

Grieving is hard but people have survived. You can outlive grief and get back to life. Surround yourself with positivity and always stay strong. Retain your faith and consider the tips above. Keep in mind that life is too short. Your decision today can change what will happen to you in your future.