Bereavement Leave Facts

No one finds it simple to keep on after the death of a mate, sister, brother, parent, better half or child. Each brings its own hurt and agony and difficulty in discovering how to deal with death. The intensity of the loss will change tremendously. My thoughts after the loss of a best buddy were very different from the loss of my parents and those losses were noticeably different than the death of my spouse.

I was with my best friend just a couple of hours before he died. I can recollect him pulling at the sheets and being very agitated. I sat beside him and held him for a considerable time while making an attempt to provide comfort to my pal and companionship to his other half. It was troublesome for her to witness her husband wrestling and to understand the end was near.

Sitting and staying with my mum in the hospital during her last five days and nights was quite a different experience. I recall having a look at her quite often times to work out if she was still breathing. She was so ready to go home to heaven; and that helped everybody who liked her. Nevertheless, watching your mother struggle to breathe during her last hours isn’t easy.

My dad, a awesome 86 year old man who had lived a full life, died six years later with lung difficulties. He was also ready to go home. He had missed my mother very over those last six years. I wished I had known then what I know today. We supplied him a good life but I didn't realize the hurt he was going thru. The night he died, I was alone with him for the last four hours of his life. I held him in my arms during those last hours, just he and I. I was able to say to him what an incredible pa he'd been and how much I loved him. What a privilege to get to hold him and to hear the death rattle. It became so sweet because I knew where he was headed, to see his Jesus and to see my mum.

I grew thru these experiences yet, they didn't prepare me for the largest loss of my life. My previous better half of TWENTY-SEVEN years was identified with stage 4 cancer. 10 weeks later she also went home, just like my pal, my mum and my father. This experience, not like the others, rocked me to my core. It is a story all its own. Some moments I could grin, but on occasions the grief was all consuming. I would feel surrounded in a box; breathing, simply surviving was all I could manage. It was like I could only take one step at a time. It was during this experience that God began to mold, form, and change me beyond anything I might have imagined. He was preparing me to do His work through my life.

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